Ukutyala imali okanye ukuzibophelela kubandakanya ukujongana neemvakalelo zethu. Inxalenye yendalo esele isenze savela njengabantu ihanjiswa ngawo wonke umzuzu kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Ngapha koko, uCharlie Munger, usekela-mongameli waseBerkshire Hathaway, uchaze into ecekeceke ngamagama ambalwa: Uqoqosho alunakuba njani kukuziphatha? Ukuba ayiziphathi kakuhle, siyintoni isihogo?
Ukwahlula kunye nokwazi ukuba kutheni siziva, kuya kusenza sithathe umgama wokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zethu ngaphambi kokuba babandakanyeke kwinto ethile. Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa nenxalenye esengqiqweni, kuba ingqondo, kude nokuba yenzelwe ukufumanisa inyani, icwangciselwe ukuba iphile. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni, umzekelo, kwiimarike xa bonke abatyali mali besebenza kwiphepha elinye? Ukuba imarike ihlala ivelisa iziphumo ezithile. Isilumkiso sokuba imigibe yengqondo kunye nokukhetha kwengqondo kukhona kuya kukunceda wenze izigqibo ezizezinye. Ngaphandle koko, sinokuba lixhoba langoku, kwaye silandele ikamva elifanayo.
Umzobo woLawulo
Umzekelo wokuqala wobukho bokuba silawula imeko kukucinga ukuba silawula into ethile. Ihlala isenzeka ngokudida yethu izakhono kunye nezakhono, zihlala zigqithisiwe, kwaye sikholelwe ukuba isenzo ngasinye siza kujikeleza kwizenzo zethu. Ngokwenyani, nangona ukusebenza nzima kufanelekile, kukho ipesenti ephezulu yezinto ezingaphandle kwesiqu sakho ezinokuchaphazela ishishini.
Elinye lamanyathelo okoyisa oku kungalunganga kolawulo kukucinga ukuba zeziphi izinto esingakwaziyo ukuzilawula. Ukusuka kumaqabane, kubathengi, ukuthanda, okanye imigaqo emitsha, umzekelo. Okwangoku, into ekufuneka iqatshelwe kukuba ukusebenza nzima kuhlala kunomvuzo, kodwa soloko usebenza ulumkile.
IsiQinisekiso seBias
Olu luvo lokuqonda lubaluleke kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha kuqheleke kakhulu kubantu abathile, kwabanye akunjalo, kodwa ngaxa lithile sonke siwele kuyo. Kwaye akukho malunga nokungaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi ukuya nokufunda ulwazi oluhambelanayo kunye nendlela yethu yokucinga. Ngokwesiqhelo bakholelwa into, okanye bacinge into, bafune olo lwazi, kwaye kude nokuthelekisa oko sikucingayo, kuyalandelwa ukungqina oko sikucingayo. Ngenxa yoko ndinika impazamo ebulalayo. Kwimeko yokungalunganga, siza kuyigxininisa inkolelo engeyiyo ngokuzithemba okungakumbi.
Inyani yile yokuba ukuba ucinga ngento kwaye uqinisekile, akukho nto inokwenzeka ukuva okanye ukuya kwimbono echaseneyo. Ngakumbi nangakumbi, ukuba sibeka emngciphekweni into exabisekileyo kuthi, enjengexesha lethu, umzamo okanye inkunzi. Umahluko kunye / okanye ukuba nembono eyahlukileyo ayisiyonto imbi, inokude isebenze ukuqinisekisa oko sikukholelwayo, okanye kwimeko elungileyo, ukuqonda impazamo yethu. Kukukhetha kwengqondo, kodwa ukuba sinobuchule, siya kuthatha indawo ethobekileyo kunye nathi. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, indlela echanekileyo ngakumbi kumcimbi okhoyo.
Ukuthotyelwa komthetho
Ngokwam, ndicinga ukuba oku kukhetha ukukhetha, ukuba akunjalo, yenye yezona "ziyingozi" esinokuzifumana. Ukuthobela ukuthotywa kusisiseko sokwamkela ukucinga okuninzi kwiqela lentlalontle. Idla ngokulula ukwenzeka xa singenalo uluvo olucacileyo malunga nento ethile okanye samkela iingcinga ezixhaphakileyo zeqela. Ngokwesiqhelo kwenzeka Ukukholelwa ukuba abantu abaninzi bacinga ngokufanayo, iyakuba sesizathu esithile, kwaye ngokungazi sitsho kuye ukuba le ngcamango / into kufuneka ukuba yahluke. Kuza ngokwenqanaba lokungaqiniseki kwethu.
Qeda ukwamkela inkolelo nokuba siziva ngathi ayichanekanga, ayisoloko iba neziphumo ezilungileyo. Phakathi kwabanye, kuba ukuba siqala ishishini elitsha, siphucula umfanekiso, okanye senza naluphi na uhlobo lotyalo-mali ... Iya kuba kungenxa yokuba siye safumanisa into abantu abaninzi abangayiboniyo. Sisiphi ke isizathu sokuba sitshintshe iingqondo zethu? Kuya kufuneka ugcine iinyawo zakho emhlabeni, kodwa ungoyami ngokugqithileyo kwaye uthobele uninzi lokucinga.
Uvelwano lwaManqanaba ahlukeneyo
Siphila oku sisenyameni yethu kwimihla yethu. Imalunga nokungakwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye umntu. Xa sisuka kwindawo yoxolo, kunzima kuthi ukuba sichonge inqanaba lomsindo, ukukhathazeka okanye ukungakhathali kwabanye. Ukusuka kuxolo, kunye ukugcina ingqiqo ebandayo ecaleni, kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu wokuqonda uziva njani lomntu, ngakumbi ngenxa yezenzo kunye / okanye namagama.
Ukungayiqondi indlela abanye abavakalelwa ngayo kuyasichaphazela xa sisenza izigqibo. Ngokukodwa, ukuba siyazithatha, ngekhe sazi nokuba ziya kusichaphazela njani kamva. Kwinqanaba elahlukileyo, kulula ukuwela kwimpazamo yokukholelwa ukuba siya kuyazi indlela esiza kuzifumana ngayo ngokweemvakalelo kwixesha elizayo. Kubalulekile ukuba singacwangcisi iiprojekthi ezinkulu okanye izinto eziza kwenzeka ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo ukuba asisayi kuhlala sikhuthaza kunye nemo yengqondo.
Isifo esiPhambeneyo
Kuyinkimbinkimbi ukucinga, kodwa kwenzeka kaninzi kunokuba sicinga. Imposter Syndrome ilele uluvo lokuba wena ngokwakho awufanelanga nto. Kwakhe kwenzeka kuthi sonke ukuba impumelelo yethu siyibeke ngamabona-ndenzile, ngethamsanqa, ngentembeko ebekwe ngabantu besithathu kuthi, njl. Nangona kuyinyani ukuba kungenzeka ukuba sizamile kakhulu, kwaye saye saneengcali ngokwenene kwinto esizinikezelayo okanye esiyiphumezileyo, kukho ixesha apho siyoyika. Inkqubo ye- soyika ukuba kuya kufunyaniswa ukuba sikwisikhundla esingeyonxalenye yethu.
Ngokwenyani kufuneka ucinge ukuba inxenye yempumelelo yakho inokubalelwa kwithamsanqa ngamanye amaxesha. Kwaye akufuneki sizive sibi malunga noko kufezekisiweyo ngenxa yoko. Ingxaki esisiphumo sokwamkela le ngcinga kukuba sizixabisile, kwaye sithandabuze ubuchule bethu. Umzuzwana oku kuqala ukwenzeka, Siza kuqala ukucinga ukuba asikwazi ukufikelela kwizinto ezininzi, kwaye ke kulapho kuya kubakho ukungabikho kwenkuthazo kwaye izigqibo ezimbi ziya kuvela. Kwaye oku akuyonyani, awunakuzithandabuza.
Kwilizwe lezoshishino, uqoqosho kunye nezimali, njengakwiimeko zethu zobomi, ingqiqo iya kuhlala ingoyena mlingane wethu umhle. Ukwazi amandla ethu, ubuhle, amandla, kuya kukunceda wazi ukuba ungaya phi. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, kuya kubakho enye into ebaluleke ngakumbi, ukwazi imida yakho. Yazi imida yakho, kwaye uya kuyazi yonke into onokuyigubungela okwangoku.